Say Something, I'm Giving Up on You

Editor's Note: The following is based on Glenn's monologue from September 8, 2016.

Yesterday, I was on the set filming a new series we're doing called The Vault, which starts in two weeks. It's a show based on all of these unbelievable pieces of American history we have. My daughter Mary and Jeremy work on set in the vault, and they are responsible for the library. Jeremy was gone yesterday, so Mary was on the set with me, and she is such a guard and protector of all of these artifacts. She had a seizure in the middle of filming.

I got up this morning, and I was feeling guilty because she had a seizure. We stopped to take care of her, and sometimes she just needs to sit down for a while, about 20 or 30 minutes to just kind of recover from it. After she stabilized, one of the guys took her to my office where she just rested for a while. And it bothered me all the way through filming --- I wish I was sitting next to Mary right now --- but I had to continue on with the filming.

I was thinking about that this morning, and I was thinking about all the things I've done as a dad. You know, I've made choices along the way, and there's just no way to win as a parent. No matter what you do, no matter how hard you try, you've either done too much or not enough. It's a no-win situation.

I don't know if you're like this at all, but I'm like this in my marriage and I'm like this with my kids. There are things that I want to say, but I am so bad at saying the wrong thing.

First of all, Raphe and Uno, my dog, we're the only men in the house. And men and women have completely different languages. I learned early on, in my first marriage, no matter what I say, I lose. If I just say I've been saying that --- very bad idea.

Why haven't you told me . . .

I have.

Well, I didn't hear it.

Well, hello.

Now when I do say something, my wife Tania, she still looks at me like, What the hell is wrong with you?

I'm like, I'm just telling the girls that . . .

Don't say that to a girl.

Okay, so there's nothing I can say. Because if I say something, it's wrong. If I don't say something, it's wrong.

It's awful. And there are things that I want to say, but I don't know how to say it because I'm afraid that it will make it worse. Does anybody else feel this way? You feel, I missed the opportunity to say this, and now it's going to be a bigger deal. And I don't want it to be a bigger deal. I just have to say something. I wish somebody else would say something. Maybe something is going to change. All of a sudden, you find yourself in this place to where it's horrible, and now you really don't know what to say.

If we were more honest with each other, all of our relationships would change. If we were just able to speak and not just hear, but listen. I'm sometimes --- really, most times --- I'm a really bad listener. And Stu will verify this because he roles his eyes every time I cut him off because I always think I know what he's going to say. And I know he is always like, No, that's not what I was going to say, but that is my pattern because I hear and I don't always listen. I've known that for a long time, and I've never said that to Stu. And it probably is very frustrating because he thinks I don't know it --- and I do.

This morning, I was listening to a song by Damien Rice, and I wish we could play it on the air. But one of the wonderful things about technology is you're heard on a billion different platforms, and you can't afford the rights to absolutely everything. We used to be able to play a song and say, Hey, here's what it is.

Christina Aguilera did a song called Say Something with Damien Rice of A Great Big World. So it's this great song, and I want to read the lyrics to you. I want you to think about your relationship. If your relationship -- with anybody -- has ever been in a bad place and you don't know what to say:

Say something, I'm giving up on you

I'll be the one if you want me to

Anywhere I would have followed you

Say something, I'm giving up on you

And I'm feeling so small

It was all over my head

I know nothing at all

What's remarkable about this song is it's a duet, and it shows that both sides in this relationship are feeling exactly the same way.

Say something. They both know. But (a) they don't know what to say for the other side. And (b) they're not hearing what the other person is saying, which is exactly the same thing. I don't want this to be over, but I'm about to give up.

So how does this relate? Remember, this is a duet. I've said for a very long time now, I don't condemn anybody for making a different decision on politics. I don't condemn you. I understand. I get it. I get it. I look at things differently than you do, but I respect you and I get it.

Now, I don't understand those people who have had 17 choices in front of them and they were on the first bandwagon with this guy. I don't get that. But that's 20 percent of 30 percent. That's a small number in America, and a small number of this audience. The vast majority of this audience is most likely saying, I don't want Clinton, and I really don't want Trump, but he's the best thing going. It's going to be binary, so it's going to be one of these two, and I get that. I really do. I understand that. I can't make that choice --- nor can Pat or Stu. Jeffy, I think, is going to make that choice, but I won't condemn him.

I think there are a lot of people in this audience that feel horrible about that choice, but they don't know what else to do. So human nature says condemn anyone disagreeing with you because it will make you feel better about your choice. Two can play that game, but I'm not going to play that game. Because there are no good choices.

What I'm choosing to do, I'm not happy about. What you're choosing to do, most likely you're not happy about.

Now, there are those people who absolutely believe every word that Donald Trump says, and it's great for them. There are those people that are voting for Hillary Clinton who believe everything she says. But there's a vast majority of people, I believe, in the Hillary Clinton camp, that don't believe a word she says, that think she's bad. But they're saying, We can't have Donald Trump. Just like we're saying, We can't have Hillary Clinton.

And what we're doing is dividing ourselves, really. Not in half, but dividing ourselves into thirds.

Those people who actually are the alt-right. Those people who from the beginning believed in a strongman and have authoritarian tendencies. Now, not all the people that were joining Trump at the very beginning believed that, but that's where that base of anger, rage and shut down anybody else who thinks differently comes from. That's an authoritarian strain. That's a very small minority, but it exists. There's one-third, not evenly distributed. The next third are the people who say, I don't really like that guy, but I like him better than her. Then there's the other third that says, I don't like either of them, and I can't go there.

What we're going through right now is birth pains. In 60 days, we give birth to something, and we're in the room right now. This is the time where your wife is like, Get your hands off me. I'm never going to let you touch me again. And screaming at you and saying all kinds of things you know she doesn't mean. She's going to be fine the moment the pain stops. The moment she gives birth, that's all going to be over.

We need to be the ones in the room that just smile and say, Uh-huh. I know. I know. Breathe, honey. Breathe.

The husband will cause massive problems in the relationship if he didn't understand that and says, Well, you, bitch. How dare you! Can you imagine how stupid that would be, to get into that argument, while she's having labor pains, while she's giving birth, and you're taking everything she says as not emotional outbursts that are unreasonable because of the pain she is in? That would cause permanent division.

We need to understand, we're giving birth to something new, to an entirely new life. And whether that life turns out to be good or Damien, we don't know. But as parents that gave life its start, we better be one. We better be together or the baby will control us. It will be able to control us because it will play us one against another.

There are patterns in life. So as I'm listening to this song today, quite honestly, I first think of me, but then I want to start with you. I don't know what you want me to say because I feel like I say it to you every day: It's okay. I support you. I'm not your enemy. I'm an enemy of totalitarianism. I'm an enemy of progressivism. I am an enemy of anybody who wants to control and stifle anyone else. But I do not believe that is the vast majority of people on either side.

I support you. I don't know what you want me to say, but I'm willing to say it. I just don't know how you're going to hear it.

But on the other side, say something because I'm about to give up on you. I get bashed. Anybody who is in our camp, all the people who are listening right now who are in my camp, I think they're saying the same thing to you: Say something. I thought we were together. I thought we were one. I thought we understood each other. I love you. I don't want to go away. I don't want you to go away. But I'm about to give up on you. Say something.

All you have to say is, I get it. I get it. I get it. I don't agree with what you're going to do, but I get it. And we're still together.

I have to break the patterns in my own life where I don't say the hard things to the people that I love because I'm afraid to make it worse. I don't think we can make this any worse. This is the biggest divorce of the American family I've ever seen in my lifetime. I don't think I can make it worse.

Say something, because I'm about to give up on you.

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If you enjoy the pop culture and nerdy discussions that Glenn, Pat and Stu get into on the radio show, you'll love this! After you're through, you can also check out Stu Burguiere's appearance on Beltway Banthas to talk Star Wars. You can find that here.


It's never too early to start your Christmas, Hanukah, or Kwanzaa shopping. Or even birthday gift shopping. Especially if that special someone in your life is a Democrat. Because at last count, pretty much all the Democrats are now running for president. And that means there has never been a wider selection of official candidate merchandise to choose from. Whether you're into environmentalism, feminism, classism, socialism, or just plain love, there is a smorgasbord of classy items that you and yours will treasure forever... or at least until the next presidential election.

We have browsed each of the candidates' online stores, so you don't have to (it only took us three months). We have curated only the finest items from each of the Democrats running for president of the United States of America. Without further ado, here is your handy progressive gift guide – or maybe your what-not-to-gift guide.

First, the bargain basement options. Hurry! Time is running out to grab your Beto bandana, or your Delaney pack of golf balls, because at this point Stu has as much of a chance as these guys of getting the nomination.

Tom Steyer, for example – is he still in the race?


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There's way too much Tom here. That shirt's got more Toms than a Caucasian dentists' convention.

For the slightly more moderate Democrat in your life, perhaps they'd like to join the "Yang Gang"…

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Andrew Yang is a lock for Math Club president…


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But for actual president? Well, I wouldn't make plans for how you're going to spend your $1,000-per-month Yang allowance just yet.

If you happen to be shopping for your dog, may I suggest this lovely "Dogs for Delaney" dog collar…


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John Delaney's definitely going to secure the canine vote with this kind of outreach. As for any human votes, that's another question entirely.

How 'bout this tastefully understated "Natural Canvas" Michael Bennet tote to remind you he's also still here?...


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Then again, it's a tote. So, it'll end up on the floor of your closet and you won't have it with you until that one random moment when you're out somewhere and you really need a tote bag. Just like Democrats will really wish they had a moderate when we're in the middle of the socialist nightmare of their creation.

Captain Planet himself, Jay Inslee recently dropped out of the race, but don't let that stop you from picking up what may be the greatest single item sold by anyone in this race…


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A children's book called Elvis & the Elves: the Mystery of the Melting Snow. Written and illustrated by Governor Jay Inslee. Talk about a whodunnit – how could that snow possibly be melting? Spoiler alert: it's because of evil, white, patriarchal capitalism. And Donald Trump.

Then there's the candidate who thinks you're a moron that can't pronounce his last name: Steve Bullock...


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Get it? Bull. Lock. Oh, so that's how you say the name that sounds exactly how it's spelled.

There's another candidate who also thinks you need help pronouncing his last name…


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And he is definitely right about that. So, thank you, Pete "Boot Edge Edge." That helps.

Just outside the bargain bin section, but just barely, are candidates like Julian Castro and his "El Presidente" t-shirt…


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When your last name's Castro, do you really want to go with a weird drawing of yourself as if you're a classic Latin American dictator on a postage stamp?

If you prefer a little "dark psychic forces" battling in your candidates, you'll love Marianne Williamson's "Turn Love Into a Political Force" rally sign…


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"Turn Love Into a Political Force" would be an even better title for a Marianne Williamson album of 80s cover songs. And if you think I'm joking, then you haven't heard Bernie Sanders' classic 1987 folk album, We Shall Overcome. That's not a joke. Well, it is a joke, but it's also a very real thing.

Now, just a quick pause to consider the peculiar baby-wear that way too many candidates are selling…

…including Elizabeth Warren's trans-pride flag onesie. Let me get this straight – we can't force any gender on a child, because that's just cruel. But we can force a political advertisement on a baby? How do we know that baby is actually a Biden or Warren fan? The child may not even be a Democrat or a Socialist at all. That baby might self-identify as a Libertarian, or Republican, or even worse – a moderate Democrat.

Now to the premium items from the premium candidates. Elizabeth Warren – the candidate with the most honesty in her advertising…


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-AND-

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Warren's merchandise reflects the woman herself – cold and humorless (watch her "This isn't funny" clip from the last debate here at the 4:27 mark). I'm sure she's really fun once you get to know her. Then again, maybe not.

Speaking of serious women, Kamala Harris wants to be president very badly for you, the people, as you can tell from her "For the People" poster…


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At $29.99 though, she's sure not charging "people's" prices. Of course, she might be having to pay royalties to a certain someone for riffing on their poster. Just saying.

For the race's number one socialist, there's a whole lot of capitalism going on in Bernie Sanders' campaign. He sells so many delightful items that it's hard to choose. But we did anyway. The most random item is this hundred-dollar, black, "Art of a Political Revolution – Artists for Bernie Sanders Coaches Jacket"…


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Coaches across the land will be clamoring for this one. You know, since coaches are such a strong Bernie-socialist demographic.

If that's a little over your budget you might consider a "Feel the Bern" fanny pack, to help store all those government freebies you'll get from Bernie…


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This is the only context in which you'll ever want to hear "feel the burn" and "fanny" in the same sentence.

And finally, from front-runner Joe Biden, we have this fine "Women's Fitted Biden Polo." Which is just about the best polo description ever…


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It promises the kind of snug approach that Biden loves to provide women. Even when they don't ask.

This was one of the first homesteads in the area in the 1880's and was just begging to be brought back to its original glory — with a touch of modern. When we first purchased the property, it was full of old stuff without any running water, central heat or AC, so needless to say, we had a huge project ahead of us. It took some vision and a whole lot of trust, but the mess we started with seven years ago is now a place we hope the original owners would be proud of.

To restore something like this is really does take a village. It doesn't take much money to make it cozy inside, if like me you are willing to take time and gather things here and there from thrift shops and little antique shops in the middle of nowhere.

But finding the right craftsman is a different story.

Matt Jensen and his assistant Rob did this entire job from sketches I made. Because he built this in his off hours it took just over a year, but so worth the wait. It wasn't easy as it was 18"out of square. He had to build around that as the entire thing we felt would collapse. Matt just reinforced the structure and we love its imperfections.

Here are a few pictures of the process and the transformation from where we started to where we are now:

​How it was

It doesn't look like much yet, but just you wait and see!

By request a photo tour of the restored cabin. I start doing the interior design in earnest tomorrow after the show, but all of the construction guys are now done. So I mopped the floors, washed the sheets, some friends helped by washing the windows. And now the unofficial / official tour.

The Property

The views are absolutely stunning and completely peaceful.