Glenn Beck: Modern Dating

Barbie Adler


from Selective Search

GLENN: All right.  So we were talking about this -- I don't even know what the -- let me get my glasses.  Jeez.  SelectiveSearch-Inc.com.  And Stu found this in the duPont Registry.  And it's this woman, Barbie Adler who is -- she was a recruiter for corporate America and she goes out and she re -- you know, she finds -- she's a matchmaker.  I think I'm cool with this.  Stu would like a little more romance.  My wife was not happy that I even brought it up because, well, it might have been the way I phrased it when I said, "Honey, imagine that you were dead," and she doesn't appreciate that.

But Barbie, are you there?

ADLER:  I am.

GLENN:  Welcome to the program.  Thanks for talking to me.

ADLER:  Thanks for having me.

GLENN:  I wanted to -- here's the dilemma that we have.  There's some people that say that, you know, like Stu, one of my brothers says, well, it's a little -- I'd like some romance and magic to happen.  You know, I want to go to Serendipity and just kind of bump into her, which I think is -- you know, it would be nice if it happened that way, sure.  The other thing is the women know that the guys are rich, and the guys know that the women are most likely hot.  So aren't we just boiling it down to rich and hot?

ADLER:  Well, let's back up.  Your fist question is something that I just want to address which is people hire us because, think about professionally, right?  How are you going to have your career.  You don't just sit there and wait for someone to offer you an amazing opportunity.  You are strategic in your career and you set out a path to get where you are professionally.  And then personally people just expect for this person to knock on their door, to be everything they're looking for.  And the traditional ways of meeting someone don't work anymore.  Those models are flubs.  People lie about their height, their weight, their age online, blind dates lead to blind alleys and it's a waste of time.  So a guy that's truly looking for love can waste a lot of time, money, energy and heartache.  A lot of times a guy looks at a girl and says, wow, she's hot, and approaches her and tries to, you know, get into a relationship or get into bed or whatever and they ignore the warning signs that this person is not right for them because she's so beautiful.

GLENN:  Right.

ADLER:  What we do is keep men out of harm's way by not listening to the red, yellow warning signs that this girl's not right for them.  And a guy comes to us, tells us everything about what they're looking for.  It's the most dignified way to do it.  And we make sure that we still introduce them to someone that meets all their criteria including, yes, physical.  Guys are, you know, human and they're picky visual creatures.  But also make sure that we do the screening and keep them out of harm's way, that they are emotionally stable, all that kind of stuff.

GLENN:  I don't think I've ever been called a creature before.  No, my friend called me a creature.

ADLER:  No, but seriously women's biggest complaint are where are all the commitment minded men out there and men pick women that are physically and all the other stuff and it's a train wreck.  They are really looking for someone that's the whole package, especially if they have been divorced or unfortunately they are widowed, it's hard because all your life your friends or people that you made together as a couple and where are you going to go to meet somebody.  So we help them.

GLENN:  All right.  So here's the -- here's the two questions.  Do you ever reject guys?

ADLER:  Yes.

GLENN:  You do?

ADLER:  Yes.

GLENN:  And how do --

ADLER:  Well, we can't work with someone that we think isn't a total catch.  If they're severely overweight, if they're not commitment minded.  You know, if you don't believe in them as --

GLENN:  What's severely overweight?

ADLER:  If they -- you know, overly obese.

GLENN:  Overly obese.

ADLER:  Right.

GLENN:  Because I've seen the obese things and --

ADLER:  You know, women are -- first of all, I'm very proud of the quality of men that we represent in terms of looks.  We represent the who's who of every industry from politicians to people in corporate boardrooms to celebrities.

GLENN:  Wait a minute.

ADLER:  This is not a service for people that can't get a date.  It's for people who want us to screen out the gold diggers.  We sniff them out.  You give me a lineup of 20 girls and I'll interview them and tell you who the real deals are and who's a good mother.

GLENN:  Who you do you know who the gold diggers are?

ADLER:  That's what I'm hired to do.  I ask questions.  My background is executive search.  I get in there and verbal, nonverbal, and I ask lots of questions to make sure, as much as possible, that it's a good girl.  You can tell.  First of all, females, in order to have a friend, you need to be a friend.  So if -- you can ask, find out a lot about someone who has long-lasting friendships, the relationship with their father, the mother or friendships, see how long they've been in a certain career, are they a job hopper, do they own, do they rent.  Collectively you can find out a lot about someone.  Do they know themselves, are they self-aware.

GLENN:  So how do the girls find you?

ADLER:  A lot of it is word of mouth.  Men retain us and they really want it confidential.  So basically they, through branding and PR and awareness.  And they want to know about us.  They want us to know about them because we have assets and we represent bachelors all over the country.

GLENN:  Okay.  I have to ask you, Barbie.

ADLER:  Yes.

GLENN:  Well, I have to ask you two questions.  Is Barbie really your first name?

ADLER:  It is.  Aren't my parents cruel?

GLENN:  I mean, I'm just saying.  Okay.  The second question is -- and I only thought of this because, you know, you said you represent, you know, politicians.

ADLER:  Right.

GLENN:  Like, I mean, this is a -- I mean, this is not -- Eliot Spitzer is not calling you?

ADLER:  No, that's not the type of men.  We do background checks.  We go to their homes and offices.  We make sure that there's no wife and children underneath the bed.

GLENN:  Okay.  Or maybe some place else or in the backyard or whatever.

ADLER:  Yeah.  I mean, this is really for people that, you know what, everyone's busier than ever these days, if you are really serious about meeting someone but you're picky, what do you do if you still have high standards and you do want something that's good looking but you also want to merge your life with someone and it's not about being mattress minded, you are really marriage minded.

GLENN:  Sure.  And that has to play a huge role for women because women are -- you know, they want to be with somebody.  They want to have children, they want to get married, they want to be stable, yada, yada, yada.

ADLER:  Right.

GLENN:  And I think there are a lot of guys out there that feel the same way but generally speaking guys are, you know, known for, just go to bed and move on.  And that's what -- so that's got to be the big, besides the financially stable, the big call for women?

ADLER:  If they are commitment minded, they actually want to settle down and -- but they're picky.  But they want not just someone physical looking.  We have a lot of women that have Ivy League degrees and are making just as much money as the men are.  They are sought after and they are looking out for holding after the same person as well.

GLENN:  Do you turn down guys who are not commitment minded?

ADLER:  Yes.

GLENN:  Okay.  Do you turn down guys -- is there a wealth threshold?

ADLER:  No, there's no requirement.  If someone wants to give me, you know, X percentage of their income, we will -- we take it very seriously.  We're not cheap but we know -- we know that this value is priceless in terms of what our value proposition is so we can help people find love.

GLENN:  You are very good.

ADLER:  Is Stu single?  Let me fix him up.

GLENN:  No.  You know what?  The guy who runs my company.

ADLER:  Yeah.

GLENN:  I mean, money just shoots out of his nose.  He is one of the nicest guys you've ever met.  He is -- I mean, I would line him up -- I mean, I'm not making this offer, but I would line him up with my daughter.  I hope my daughters find a guy like this.  And he was a workaholic, he never goes out.

ADLER:  Right.

GLENN:  He's -- you know, he's always uncomfortable with people.

ADLER:  Right.

GLENN:  And he will not -- I -- Stu gave this to me.

ADLER:  Yeah.

GLENN:  And I gave it to him and he said, I'm not doing that.

ADLER:  Well, I would be more than happy to meet with him in person, conduct a whole interview and then hand pick someone special.

GLENN:  He won't do it.  He won't do it.  Barbie, how much -- how much is the service?

ADLER:  Our programs start at $20,000.

GLENN:  Holy cow.

ADLER:  And go up -- a lot of people --

GLENN:  And go up from there.  I mean, what do you get for --

ADLER:  We are finding them the love of their life.  People are very specific.  They can be specific physically, intellectually, their religion, the lifestyle, the shared hobbies and interests.  I mean, literally.

GLENN:  How long -- what kind of -- I mean, what kind of commitment to you make for 20 grand?

ADLER:  We will work with them -- we work with them until they get into a relationship, which our success rate is over 88% we can get someone to meet the love of their life within eight months.

GLENN:  And your success rate is 45% after three dates are married.

ADLER:  Right.  Absolutely.  And 30% at the first introduction we make to them.  Because we're doing all the screening and weeding out so that people are truly just meeting someone that's amazing.  Think about it when you go to a party.  If a guy's hitting on a girl, pretty girl, she thinks he's just a player where we can vouch that the guy is actually commitment minded just like how you vouch for the person that you're talking about.  You know he's the real deal and he really is serious about being with someone.  A lot of times it sounds like just lions if you do it out on your own.  So that's why we exist.

GLENN:  Barbie, hang on, I have to take a break.  I have one more question but I don't have time now.  So hang on just a second.

A, we have to do this with Chris; and second, I've got to know what the top number is.  How expensive does this get?

(OUT 10:45)

GLENN:  Okay.  Barbie Adler is on the phone.  She's somebody that was trained by Fortune 500 companies to identify, handpick candidates to work for Fortune 500 companies.  She's an executive search person.  She decided to go into the matchmaking service.  We found out before the break that it is $20,000 to -- as a guy to hire you to do it.  Do you do it or do you have a team that does it?

ADLER:  I have a team that works for me.  I do strategy.  And depending on if they want to work for me, then it's a higher fee.

GLENN:  What is the top -- what is the top, what is the top line?  How much could this cost?

ADLER:  Definitely well into the six figure price range.

GLENN:  And does it come with power windows or leather seats or leather pants or --

ADLER:  No, that comes with me being their personal recruiter.

GLENN:  Right.

ADLER:  They have my cell phone and I don't stop until they're marry.

GLENN:  Okay.

ADLER:  And meeting someone that truly they want to settle down with, they want to scoop up and take off the market because it's truly someone that meets their criteria and what they're looking for on every level and she is looking for him just as much as he's looking for her.

GLENN:  Stu has a problem.  He's just screaming at me, it's so mathematical.  And so the name of this is Selective Search, Inc., SelectiveSearch-Inc.com is where you can find it.  The toughest order you've ever received, the toughest -- see, that says something, that's like a Freudian that it was like, oh, placing an order here.  The toughest --

ADLER:  It's not a -- it's not an order.  It's a search and it's truly for someone -- we take them on even though they're difficult.  We truly believe that we can do the job or else we wouldn't take somebody on.

GLENN:  Like what's the toughest thing that you've ever had to do?

ADLER:  Someone that is very specific with height, eye color, religion.  I mean, it's everything combined.  Like they were married someone with brown eyes and have to be blue eyes and they have to be under a certain height and they have to have a certain look and they have to downhill ski and play golf and literally it's just a line list.

GLENN:  That was one that was well into six figures, I'm guessing.

ADLER:  We don't stop.

GLENN:  Barbie, thank you so much and best of luck.

ADLER:  Thank you.

GLENN:  It's SelectiveSearch-Inc.com.  Thanks.

(OUT 10:52)

GLENN:  I can't wait to read the e-mail today because we're talking about it.  In some ways you don't have a problem with it.  In other ways you look at this -- I mean, it's almost like a designer girl at the end in what she was talking about and it's kind of creepy.  I can't wait to read the e-mail.  Me@GlennBeck.com.

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