GLENN: You’re a bad parent.
How do I know?
You insisted that your daughter hug her grandma and grandpop when they came over for Thanksgiving dinner.
Did you know that you are teaching your daughter that she “owes” people physical affection? She will grow up thinking she owes anyone and everyone a hug…or more!
First she’s hugging grandma and then she’s on the streets selling herself!
That’s the ridiculous advice from the leaders of the Girl Scouts, anyway.
They wrote a post over the weekend titled “Reminder: She Doesn’t Owe Anyone a Hug. Not Even at the Holidays.”
They continue: “Have you ever insisted, “Uncle just got here—go give him a big hug!” or “Auntie gave you that nice toy, go give her a kiss,” when you were worried your child might not offer affection on her own? If yes, you might want to reconsider the urge to do that in the future. Think of it this way, telling your child that she owes someone a hug either just because she hasn’t seen this person in a while or because they gave her a gift can set the stage for her questioning whether she “owes” another person any type of physical affection when they’ve bought her dinner or done something else seemingly nice for her later in life.”
In light of the Hollywood sexual harassment claims, the Girl Scouts are trying to get you to start a conversation about consent with your children. It’s up to you to take their advice or not. Every family dynamic is different, but as a parent it is up to you to decide whether little Tina is just being rude to Uncle Tom by not saying hello and hugging him or your child is uncomfortable for some reason.
If you choose to take the Girl Scouts advice, consider the other side, also. You are making hugging family members and close friends a taboo act and creating fake hysteria about your child’s affection with loved ones.
I have my own advice for the Girl Scouts. Let the parents decide and stick to what you do best. And by that I mean make cookies.